Saturday, July 31, 2010

Sharing is Caring

We are all living in a same sphere called "Earth" with the world population of 7, 000, 000, 000 people...which means that the 7, 000, 000, 000 of us need to share a LOT of things together in order to live....Being the only child for almost 20 years now, I did not have to share most of the things with other people...I did not have to share my clothes, cosmetics, room or even love....I was happy that I don't need to share my personal things with others...It was such a bliss....


When I started my college life, I was exposed to a living style that requires me to share most things with others...I had to share the room with 2 other people, bathroom with 11 people & etc..I can't say it was easy for me to adapt at first..I used to cry at night as I was not used to living in a house with so many people...Only God knows how noisy & irritating it is sometimes...
I missed my life back at my hometown which is quiet (well,most of the time) & full of privacy...
However, I soon learnt that sharing is not all bad after all....When my skies was hot & sunny, filled with summer joys, I had 12 housemates to share them with...When my skies was covered with dark clouds, I too had 7 close friends (only trustable ones) to share them with...When I had to run & hide from all my sorrows, they are the one who convinced me to stand up & keep fighting...I learnt to share my thoughts and feelings with them...It is something which an only child like me, has difficulties to do...

I eventually adapted being among & living with a house full of people of all races, ages & behaviours...We learnt to accept each other the way we are, both our strengths & weaknessess....During my high school, my close friends were all Chinese & Indians...But it is totally opposite during my years in college...I learnt to adapt to a Malay community and I changed a lot just to fit in & not being gossiped...Fortunately, I found a few friends who love me & accept me for who I am eventhough we were brought up in a different community and different lifestyle..
Sharing friends is common in ones live..We can't expect our friends to only befriend us & ignore the society..If that is the case, we might start losing all our friends in the process...Sometimes, sharing friends may help us in a positive way no one could expect..Friendship & sharing go hand-in-hand...When there is friendship, sharing automatically follows..The more u share the more your friendship becomes intimate...Sharing is the spice of friendship...




Most of the time, people do not have problems in sharing friends....Their biggest problem is to share love...Let's admit it....It is human nature to be jealous and dislike that their love have to be shared with others....Even siblings can be jealous with each other when family members paid more attention to another...I learnt a lot of things in sharing...But I have to confess that I still can't share my love with others...For instance, when my loved ones praise others, I still have this funny feeling in my heart that kinda ache...It may be selfish, but that's the limit of my sharing...Frankly, who can share their partner with some other people??If they have a choice, I don't think that anyone could do that...Human can't help feeling that way and so do I..Therefore, I believe such things is normal in lives....
From my personal experiences, I believed that sharing has its importance in lives...Our lives are meant to be full of joy & fulfillment, not pain & suffering..The more we share & give of ourselves, the more fulfilled our lives will become...Although sharing has got its limits, sharing is an act of caring...Give it a thought...=)



Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Love-Hate-Relationship


Are you in a relationship where your guy annoys the hell out of you till the extend you felt like strangling him with a rope or even covering his face with a pillow??




But on the other hand, you love him soooooo much that you can't afford to lose him and can't imagine what life would be losing him??



Or are you in a relationship that is similar to Chuck & Blair in Gossip Girl???




If you are, then welcome to the club!!



Being in a relationship with the same person for quite some time actually requires much more patience and understanding than those who involved in a short-term relationship...



I'll tell you why...




  1. By the time you reach your 1st anniversary, your partner will answer all your questions about themselves or anything regarding their personal life...( Excluding all his dark & dirty secrets in the past of course!!)


  2. By the time you reach your 2nd anniversary, your partner will know all your secrets because let's face it, girls are more in touch with their emotions than guys...


  3. When you're celebrating your 3rd & 4th anniversary, your partner will let you know all their dirty little secrets because they don't even care how they look to you. ( Like how they don't bath for a couple of days or how they do their big business..ewww....)


  4. When you already pass that level, they will be able to read all your emotions or even responses to anything. They know exactly what to do to annoy you and how to make it up to you..


So, both of you will know each other's strengths and weaknessess...These points will either kill you or make you stronger...Therefore, patience and understanding is very important besides the feeling of love and care...




This was what happened when a guy asked her girl to read a blog :


He said: Read this blog..It's very interesting...Especially about her marriage and proposal...Very romantic...


After some time...........................


She said: I like her wedding...And what her man was wearing...So special.....


At that moment, the girl's heart and mind was filled with all those fantasies about her own marriage...


He said: The part how they met and fell in love is much more like a fairy tale...But, I won't show you the part how he proposed though...I might wanna use the idea in the future...hehehehhee.....


( She knew it must be something real romantic and sweet from the look of their unique wedding)


She said: You're gonna use the idea to propose??ok....I promise I won't look for the post.....


Why wanna spoil the suprise right??Even if it's copied from other people's proposal...


It was then he went and spoil her mood by saying this: Who said anything about proposing you?? xtau malu.....


She said: Ok...Bye...


He said: hahhahaa....


So she clicked "sign out" from MSN...


See how sometimes guys can be so annoying at times???They may give you hopes and dreams at 1 sec and shatter them into bazillion pieces in the next....


P.S : Mr. Rude, if you are going to propose ME in the future, make sure it's based on your own original ideas and not copied from others....


P.P.S: I worth much more than that and you know it's true...


=)




Blooming Lily


Hye...
Welcome to this lil piece of mind of mine...
or maybe u could consider this as my inner voice...
Most importantly, if u know the existence of my blog, it means that u must really be an important person to me...
I'm almost sure that each and everyone of u will ask "Why Blooming Lily??"
I only feel appropiate to tell the reasons behind my choice of title for my personal blog before I start babbling about other things..
I was thinking quite hard on what to name my blog..Sat in the pantry ( currently having my practicals) and thought what is it that's related to me..
Yeah..I do have a lot of nicknames but I felt it has nothing personal related to me..
I mean I can't really be related to baby elephant ( my highschool nickname) because I'm petite for a baby elephant..Except that I like to eat...alot.....n....sleep.....=p
And I definitely can't call it as "Smart Reader Kid's Column" just because my classmates find it amusing to tease my intelligence...
A good friend of mine said to me, " Why not Rudolp?? U have RED nose all the time.."
But to me, it's still not meaningful enough...
It was then I realised something about my name.. Before I forget, I actually have 5 names written on my I/C (4 is mine & 1 is my surname)...
My Chinese name actually means "Beautiful Lily" in Chinese & "Lilies" in Latin...
Futhermore, I'm a follower of Quan Yin, the Goddess of Mercy, who sits on a lotus which happens to be the Asian water lily...
I felt a deep connection to Lilies and I think it suits me best....=)
So....Blooming Lily means it's me blooming, learning and contributing to the society....=)